3 ez ways to Prepare for a Better Relationship after Divorce
Divorce usually makes relationships toxic form the day the divorce papers are served to the day the divorce papers are finalized, but the experience can actually be a great learning opportunity that prepares you for the relationship of a lifetime. Depending on which direction you choose to take once the divorce papers are final. One thing that you may need to do is work on yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally or you may not get over the bitterness of the divorce for quite a while. It’s your decision to make the best out of your divorce leading you down the path you choose too, and that can make all the difference in the world. Let’s look at all the ways that divorce can help.
- You may realize you were looking for the wrong things in a marriage.
When you say, “I do,” you probably expected that the marriage would last a lifetime and when you resisted the words “till death do us part” actually meant just that not “till we are sick of each other do us part”. Marriage is meant to last a life time but if you find your marriage has turned out to be the later of the two phases then you may need to reevaluate whether your vows were right for you and your spouse or not. Most often you’ll find that “till death do us part” is in fact for a lifetime and not to be taken lightly. You may find that many things you thought you wanted in a marriage was not really what you wanted after all.
- A newly Divorced couple soon realizes how much work was involved to make a Marriage successful.
Getting married doesn’t end the work involved to build strong relationships but some people make this mistake, this maybe one reason why divorces are trending at around 50 percent as a whole.
When people start thinking they’ve crossed some kind of imaginary “finish line” and then think there married life will be a breeze they had better think again. Fact is that once you get married and the honeymoon is over (and believe me the honeymoon does end quickly) that’s when the reality sets in and the real work of marriage begins if both couples are ready for the work it takes to stay married then it’s expected to last a lifetime but if either one of the couples fail to do their part the marriage may be doom from day one.
- Did your weaknesses contribute to your Divorce? How will knowing your weaknesses help your future marriage?
Where you not caring enough about your eat habits or how often you exercise? (This goes for either of the couples) The reason you got married was wrong because you didn’t choose a responsible and giving partner? A divorce may help you see these weaknesses as well as others and help you work to improve the decisions you make in your life and do away with the bad decisions that lead to bad judgment calls.
While divorce isn’t something that you want to celebrate necessarily, it can be the learning tool needed to help you get the life you always wanted and deserve with the partner of your dreams.